IS ATTENTION WORTH YOUR DIGNITY?

I swear this is a new phenomenon or something but its starting to sicken me. Women kissing women! Most are going to think I'm anti-gay or have a problem with P.D.A but both are somewhat true. One, I'm only against gay-relationships because they are biblically wrong. Dont get mad, I let you have your opinions, let me have mine. I dont have a problem with it outside of that, I truly don't- i think we ALL should experience the frustration of relationships LOL. Second, I am only partially against P.D.A when it's just excessive! No one wants to see that, straight or gay. Now, you have learned a tad bit more about me.


The part that sickens me is that some girls are only doing this to impress men. I mean, if you are going to be a lesbian, go head, whatever makes you happy. But dont pretend to be a lesbian or bi-sexual, or start kissing all over your friend because you think its going to get some guys to pay attention to you or desire you more. I have a problem with this because 1) I think you are offending those who are truly lesbian and are NOT hooking up with girls for attention from men. They really want to just be with that girl. 2) You are just openly signing your own slip to a one-night stand. 3) You are only making it hard for girls who are not into that freaky mess to land a decent guy. I will be elaborating on point 3.


Believe it or not, not all girls are looking for a "quickie" or "one night stand" when they go out with the girls. Some are going to have a good time and some may really be trying to look for a guy to maybe start some romantic quest with. These girls who try to fake being a lesbian or go out of their way to make themselves appear sexually promiscuous (just think of Rock of Love, thats all I can say) to try and win the attention of guys are just further soldifying some men's beliefs that good girls dont exist anymore so why waste time looking for one. They only make it harder for girls who are trying to find a "good guy". These guys are so thrown off by you tonguing down your best friend that they look past girls who may truly be right for them because, lets face it, they think with other portions of their body a good percent of the time.



I mean, to me it is just sad that some girls feel that they have to lower themselves in order to get a guy. Is your self-esteem THAT low? Do you feel that you are not worth more than your body? Or what you can offer a man sexually? It is a sad epidemic because as we see more and more of these TV shows that blatantly recruit the most ho'ish females they can find in hopes for ratings, we are spreading the idea that we have to do these things to win the guy. They usually eliminate the girls who are "standing out" enough for them, even if its the producers doing. It is still presenting that idea. I dont understand why girls do this. I really dont. The only answer I have is that we have been brainwashed, YET AGAIN, to feel that we have to constantly compete with the next girl to get the man. We do whatever it takes to make sure we "win". It is a competition because, lets face it, women outnumber men so they have the pick of whatever they choose while we are trying to compete with 6 girls to get the 1 man. But why is it that it comes down to who can be the bigger ho' that gets the man? We need to fall out of this overly sexualized mentality that society has placed on us. Why do we think that its just sex that is going to get the man? Its coming to the point that attractive girls aren't getting the most attractive guys because they may not be stripping on the dancefloor like the borderline uglies are doing. Men are taking "decent" girls who they perceive to be more apt to put out than the beautiful girl who may be fully dressed, sipping on a cocktail and lounging in the VIP. Why cant we attract men with our intelligence, humor, independence, style or ability to make you feel like the only man in the world? NO, men rather have the half-naked whore on the floor. Until they are ready their club days are over and realize they are not as young as they once were. Because of course this is when they begin to astoundingly began to itch for a real relationship.


I know I am coming down hard on these girls, but I feel that men will only treat you how they have learned to treat women. If they keep getting programmed that women are sexual objects, they will continue to treat them as such. If you talk to men they say they want love, honesty, respect, loyalty, trust, intelligence, a challenge in a woman. But when they are out with the boys, all the girls exhibiting these qualities they ignore. Is this right? NO. Is it reality? YES. So, women use sex in order to draw the man in but in hopes to switch it on him. But this seldom works because in his mind, he already has an idea of what and who you are which he got when you were dancing on the bar. This may be completely opposite of who you are but that first impression is the lasting one. Reality has taught us that book in judged by the cover, I mean, why else would you pick it up? We have to make sure that cover is accurately depicting what is inside or you are only going to toss it for false advertising. Men know exactly what they want in a woman, but some are often too mature to realize this or go after that. They are so distracted by what their penis wants, they ignore what their heart does or what is good for them. We should not lower ourselves to try and satisfy this fickle man. Because what he wanted last night will not what he desires in the morning.