because all opinions are not created equal

"I do not have to carry the race with my interactions with white women; with black women, you are representing the whole race and gender of black men. You deal with the baggage of every black girls life. And you're just not trying to hear all that. I dont want to deal with how black men are always cheating and leaving some black woman for a white woman. I do not need to hear about how some black men is always skipping out on his responsibilities. I do not need to hear about how black women have carried the race for so long, that its times that black men stepped up to the plate. I dont need to hear black men aint shit.... Latin women cook for you..black woomen say "I aint your mother"....White women will chill at the house when you're broke, black women will tell you the second you decline "How come we dont ever go anywhere?"....If the large majority of you are one way, you need to huddle with your people about what the majority voice before coming to me claiming to be the exception"...

This was a post by a guest blogger on another site so Im not goin to put the link and make it look like that site is whats wrong. I was NOT going to touch on the white woman v black woman topic because its been dealt with so much and I am about bridging the gap instead of further dividing it. HOWEVER!!! My blood was BOILING after I read this post by one of the most ignorant, self-absorbed, lazy excuse for a black man I have ever seen. Let me put this out in the atmosphere before I get started. I HAVE NO PROBLEM WITH INTERRACIAL RELATIONSHIPS!! I know I just posted about black men preferring white women, but that was to address hypocritical statements they made.I am choosing to do this because I am just pissed and its my blog so I can talk about whatever I want! And because I feel that you can prefer what you prefer but when you try and tear down a whole group of people to try and justify why you choose to go with a group of people. And yes, it is a CHOICE and why I feel its a CHOICE is because you could jus as easily have dealt with black women but you were to consumed with doing your own thing.

Another reason it is a CHOICE is because we, black women, CHOOSE to stay and try to hang on to what is left of the black male population. It is funny how black men, EVERY SINGLE LAST ONE OF THEM THAT I'VE HAD THIS DISCUSSION WITH, can only address black women's "attitude" when trying to justify why they move on to other races. THE ONLY REASON! I have not heard anything different and Im not lying. What is the real kicker is that black women will still hang on to black men despite of way worse situations.
STATS:

• Nationally 1.9 million (only a quarter of the population) of black men between 18 and 24 attended college in 2000--> Graduation rate of black men is lowest of any population
• In 1999- 25% more black men in jail than enrolled in higher education; today 41% of inmates! Black men make up only 4% of all American students in college
• Black men are 5 times more likely to die of HIV/AIDS (136.8 black men have HIV, 60.6 of black women; 81.3 of black males have AIDS, 39.8% of black women) (avert.org)
• In 2000- 65% of black male high school dropouts in their 20s were jobless- unable to find job, not seeking one or incarcerated; 2004-71%! (helpstartsphere.org)
• In 2003, 64.1% of black men without job- come on we are in a recession now, sooo how many you think are out of one now?
• President Obama- "Many black men simply cannot affort to raise a family...And sadly too many made the choice not to"--AND A SINGLE MOTHER CAN AFFORD TO?? 7 out of 10 African American children are raised in a single mother home

These stats was to justify my point that black men have SO much going against them in life. They have so many obstacles to overcome, and because of the color of their skin they are born with a disadvantage in the world. BUT black women STILL hold on to the faith that there is something in him, we do not turn our backs on black men. But they are so quick to turn on us? Because of our "attitudes"? I think some black men are just WEAK! They dont wanna be told what they need to do so all of a sudden we have attitudes and nag all the time. WOW! Based on these statistics, why do black women stay with black men? Why dont we just move on to white men because they excel across the board in comparison to black men? We DONT, we STAY! We dont GIVE UP! That is what makes me even more upset when black men like the one above makes statements like that. And I will point out the hypocricies and where he was just a plum idiot..

"I do not have to carry the race with my interactions with white women; with black women, you are representing the whole race and gender of black men. You deal with the baggage of every black girls life" - Excuse me but I do not expect any black man to carry the whole race! Thats ridiculous. How many times have I said all men (despite race) are not the same? I expect you to exceed above the others in your race and show that despite the obstacles a black man can achieve something in life. He can be called to a higher position in this world (Barack Obama?? And he has a BLACK woman at his side!! )

"I dont want to deal with how black men are always cheating and leaving some black woman for a white woman."-This is just hypocritical!! I mean, isnt that what you JUST said you were doing? Leaving black women for a white one? COME ON!! Love is love. You can fall in it and out of it with a woman from any race. Black love is not beautiful. White love is not beautiful. LOVE itself is beautiful.

"I do not need to hear about how some black men is always skipping out on his responsibilities.I do not need to hear about how black women have carried the race for so long, that its times that black men stepped up to the plate."- They are! Im sorry, just look at the facts! NO, you were too busy trying to prove a point with no statistics or facts to see that black families are the highest proportion of any race to have the father absent from the home. Black men are the highest group to be unemployed. So how is it wrong to point out the truth? I mean, you guys are always trying to "keep it real" but you cant even keep it real with yourselves.

Latin women cook for you..black woomen say "I aint your mother"....White women will chill at the house when you're broke, black women will tell you the second you decline "How come we dont ever go anywhere?".... THIS WAS LAUGHABLE!! So you wanna stay broke and have a woman take care of you? So, if this isnt a man wanting a woman to be his mother I dont know what is! Has he ever taken the time to step back and see where HE is wrong and that it may just be the black women HE chooses? My mother STAYED in the kitchen for my father, my grandmother still STAYS in the kitchen for my grandfather so how are you going to make such a one-sided, only-based-on-your-experience statement and try to pass it off as fact. Why would you just WANT to be broke? And believe me, if you seen the stats for white women and the black men they date, they are usually the C.E.O's and athletes so get your facts straight.

"If the large majority of you are one way, you need to huddle with your people about what the majority voice before coming to me claiming to be the exception"- HYPOCRITE!!! How are you going to tell us that we are all acting the same and that is why you are trying to include "all black women", but you are claimin to be the exception to all black men? As the statistics STATE, a large portion to majority of black men are in jail, uneducated, unemployed and infected with HIV/AIDS. SOOOOOO... we are not supposed to classify you as "aint bein shit" even if the large majority of you are that way?? Maybe YOU need to huddle up with YOUR black brothas and forge a "get-my-shit-together-" plan and maybe, just MAYBE, you guys wont have to deal with black women trying to lead you into getting your stuff together.

*IF YOU WERE LOOKING FOR AN UPLIFTING PROVERB TO THE BLACK MAN, IT AINT HAPPENIN RIGHT NOW!! I AM ENGAGED TO A BLACK MAN WHO DOES NOT FIT ANY OF THOSE ABOVE STATS SO I KNOW IT CAN BE DONE! SO THERE IS A TID-BIT OF INFO BEFORE YOU CLAIM IM A 'BITTER, LONELY' BLACK WOMAN, CUZ IM NOT! I LOVE BLACK MEN AND WILL NEVER GIVE UP ON THEM, BUT I AM SOMEONE WHO IS VERY OPEN TO DATING OTHER RACES *

This poll is for BLACK MALES ONLY!
0 I am a black male
0 I am not a black male and so will NOT fill out this survey!

I find straight hair more attractive than "afro" hair
0 YES
0 NO

I find blond, brown, or redheads more attractive than black haired girls
0 YES
0 NO

I find lighter skin more attractive than darker skin
0 YES
0 NO

I find a small, pointy, narrow nose more attractive than a large, flat, wide nose
0 YES
0 NO

I find thin or medium lips more attractive than thick lips
0 YES
0 NO

Considering your responses to the previous questions:
0 I find Caucasian features to be more attractive
0 I find Black features to me more attractive

If you responded YES to the previous question, does this mean you find Caucasian women more attractive (on average) than black women?
0 YES
0 NO

Again if you answered yes to the "caucasian features vs. black features" question, this must imply that you find white men (who have Caucasian features) more attractive than Black men (who have black features) since you find caucasian features more attractive than black features in general
0 YES that follows
0 NO because I must think of myself as attractive so I cannot say that

If you find Caucasian features more attractive than black features, why don't you find your features less attractive than those of white men?
0 I do not want to see myself as unattractive
0 This is an issue of racial self-hatred that a lot of black men face
0 I DO think my features are less attractive than those of white men
0 I realize that this is hypocritical, but I can't think of an explanation

If you find light skin more attractive than dark skin, do you think YOU would be more attractive if you had lighter skin?
0 YES
0 NO

If you find a small, narrow, pointy nose more attractive than a large, wide, flat nose, do you think YOU would be more attractive if you had a smaller, narrower, pointier nose?
0 YES
0 NO

If you find thin lips more attractive than thick lips, do you think YOU would be more attractive if you had thinner lips?
0 YES
0 NO

If you find straight hair more attractive than "afro" hair, do you think YOU would be more attractive if you had straighter hair?
0 YES
0 NO

If you find light skin more attractive than dark skin, do you think BLACK WOMEN would be more attractive if they had lighter skin?
0 YES
0 NO

If you find a small, narrow, pointy nose more attractive than a large, wide, flat nose, do you think BLACK WOMEN would be more attractive if they had smaller, narrower, pointier noses?
0 YES
0 NO

If you find thin lips more attractive than thick lips, do you think BLACK WOMEN would be more attractive if they had thinner lips?
0 YES
0 NO

If you find straight hair more attractive than "afro" hair, do you think BLACK WOMEN would be more attractive if they had straighter hair?
0 YES
0 NO

Looking at the above 8 questions, if you DON'T think YOU would be more attractive with Caucasian features, but you DO think BLACK WOMEN would be more attractive with Caucasian features, how do you explain these conflicting views?
0 I just hope white women find my features attractive
0 I don't want to see myself as unattractive
0 I realize this is hypocritical, and I can't explain it!
0 I've convinced myself that black features are attractive on men but not on women

If you answered that you find Caucasian features more attractive than black features (especially on women), would you find your future daughter (with a white woman) less attractive if she inherited more of your black features?
0 YES- Like I said, black features are attractive on a man, but not on a woman!
0 YES- I hope she inherits more white features
0 NO- I realize this contradicts my earlier statements

If you answered that you find Caucasian features more attractive than black features, would you find your future daughter (with a white woman) more attractive if she'd had a white father instead of you?
0 YES- white people are just more attractive
0 YES- but it's the best that I can do genetically
0 NO- I realize this is contradictory

I found this poll @ misterpoll.com, I did not do this to demean or degrade the black male. What I did this for is to address the hypocrisy that occurs in some to most of their minds. This was not meant to be an actual survey but a poll to show you that their are so many things that can be labeled as hypocritical that black males participate in. And this is for those "brothas" who say they prefer a white or light skin woman over a darker skinned woman. This is not because I am upset or angry because Im a chocolate sista. NO! I get approached by lighter skin men about 2 times as much as darker skinned ones. This is for those who say they like light skin or white women because of their physical features which darker women may not possess. You prefer what you prefer but lets examine some things first. This poll helped take a different approach that even I have never thought about. If blk men (esp darker skin) say that white or light skin women are more attractive, then basically they need to open their minds and think about it for a min. So you are saying that white or lighter skin blk men are more attractive than YOU! Their features are better than yours and you should deem them more asthetically pleasing than you are. Because isnt that what you are saying when you place those "qualifications" on blk women? But then comes the kicker, does it only relate to women? If you are a brotha and, esp darker skin, and you possess the same features of a blk, darker-skin women and you consider yourself attractive, then why cant you consider the same for the women? Hyporitical shall I say? And another kicker, if you are a blk men, you are sayin that your potential, future daughters will not be as attractive as a white or lighter skin blk women? So, if you are NOT saying that then why is that you (if you do) put these qualifications of beauty upon your black female peers? Why do black women have to conform to these standards of "beauty" even if YOU dont, but you still hold that you can still be labeled as attractive.

This was NOT to diss all black men because I know that all of you do not feel or think this way. I am just addressing an issue that you would be deaf, blind and dumb not to believe exists in our community. Im aiming at making people THINK before allowing things to come out of their mouth. I want to show that this hypocrisy exists and hope that they are open-minded enough to actually see that these comparisons, if they are going to be made, needs to be made across the board. These "features" do not know gender or age, so why should you place these boundaries on them? Why should you place "circumstances" and "exceptions" on something that has none?